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Grish's book begins with her experience of dating a Jewish man on Yom Kippur, the Jewish day of atonement. Although it is a day of fasting, the couple went out for a meal.
Later they had sex, after which the man wept tears of guilt for having sex, which is forbidden on that day.
"I wrote the book with a very honest, respectful and light-hearted intention of helping women who interfaith-date better understand the men with whom they're spending time," she said.
In the book, Grish describes Jewish men as wanting to make a woman laugh, being energetic in bed and keen to analyze the relationship. Because Judaism has a strong matriarchal culture, she says, they are trained from an early age to please women.
Despite her praise for Jewish men, she has been the target of vitriolic attacks from Jewish women. At a book reading in New York she was accused of being anti-Semitic and like a Nazi.
Letter writers in Israel have bristled at what they see as Grish's presumption. Darlene Jospe, from Jerusalem, warned the writer not to think too much of herself because she has managed to attract so many Jewish men.
"Non-Jewish women are not the attraction, but the forbidden fruit that is always sweeter. Kristina, like any other shiksa, is the appetizer for some men, but they are still likely to go home for dinner to their Jewish wives and girlfriends," she wrote to the Israeli daily,Ha'aretz.
Pamala Moteles, also from Jerusalem, sees the book as part of a "terrible trend" that forced her to leave the US for Israel. This "will spell the doom of the American Jewish community: the aggressive hunting of Jewish men by gentile women and the lack of interest expressed by Jewish men in Jewish women," she wrote.
She accuses the author of encouraging the breakdown of "Jewish heritage by cultivating a situation in which `Jewish' children will be raised by mothers of different religions" and of being hostile to Jewish women.
Grish said that she was hurt by some of the comments.
"I am obviously not a Nazi, nor do I have an anti-Semitic bone in my body," she said. "It's a bit absurd to assume that I hate either Jewish men or women, given that I've dated so many Jewish men, cared very much for their families and have a lot of Jewish friends."
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